5 Ways To Have Self Esteem
Human life is a wave of ups and downs. Our self esteem keeps fluctuating with the happiness and hardships that come in our way. But at some times, we feel so low and devastated, we find no one to look up to and find no motivation to go any further in life. Here are 5 points from psychology that will help you develop self esteem and self confidence and will keep your head up in times of test and trials.
Identify Your Hobbies And Competencies And Develop Them
We are so involved in social media and interested in seeing other people’s life that we forget what we want ourselves. People often struggle hard to find a hobby but this is one thing you should work on in order to have self esteem. For example, if your hobby is gardening and you take care of your plants, you’ll have your plants as a source of motivation. If someone ditches you or you face setbacks, you’ll have your plants and at seeing your grown plants, you will get the instinct that you are not useless. You have grown these plants. Similarly if you’re a computer programmer, you will see your developed websites and applications which will give you self confidence about yourself. If you get rejected at any phase of your life, if you have a hobby you will eventually return back to it and your accomplishments in that particular hobby will enhance your self confidence and self esteem.
Use Positive Affirmations Correctly
You are the only one who can actually motivate yourself. Other motivational speakers or good books can give you a temporary confidence but long lasting confidence will come from within. To achieve this, you should train your subconscious mind by giving positive affirmations to yourself. Tell yourself time and again that you can do this, you can achieve this. Using positive affirmations correctly is also a big part of it. A person tells himself that "I’m going to be a great success" is not the correct way rather saying "I’m going to preserve until I succeed" is the correct way. First sentence was although a motivational one but it was more of a wishful thinking, the second one involved the factor of persistence and hardwork in it.
Learn To Accept Compliments And Give Compliments To Others
If someone gives you a compliment, accept it and encourage yourself with it. Also giving compliments to others, spreading smiles on others faces will give you an inner satisfaction and self esteem. The more you try to make life easy for others, life will become easy for you. Tell your colleague that he is looking good today, tell your friends that you appreciate them. The more you spread positive compliments in your circle, a more positive vibe will cover you. Energy and confidence will start emerging from within.
Eliminate Self Criticism And Increase Self Compassion
Rejections are part of life but one should not be taken over by it. If you ever face rejection or failure, sadness or loneliness, don’t criticise yourself for it. Rather promote self compassion. Tell yourself that it’s okay to get rejected. Don’t live in the past. You think you were the top student last year but now you’re not that productive. Don’t tell yourself that. It was your past and now it’s gone. The more you live in your present, the more content you will feel. Make things easy for yourself, being compassionate with yourself and showing mercy towards your stamina to do things will increase your self esteem.
Affirm your real worth
Try to sit down and think about the remarkable things you did in life, or think about a relationship you’re in and write down the positive qualities of yours. Like you are loyal, you are caring. Or in professional life, think about the goods in you and write them. You are hardworking. If you’re a musician, think about the new tune you developed. Write down all the small and big things you think you remarkably did. Now if you ever feel low or find your self esteem dying, take out that paper and see that how remarkable you are. No one will tell you your qualities as you will tell yourself. Be grateful to yourself.
These were the five ways of having self esteem. Hope it was helpful.
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